Offer Sympathy For the Death of a Friend or Relative • Letter Templates and Guides

How to write this letter:

1Express your sympathy briefly.
2Reflect on the importance of the person who has died.
3Offer further condolences or support.


A letter offering sympathy for the death of a friend or relative respectfully acknowledges the reader's misfortune while offering comfort and support. Be brief, honest, and sincere as you write the message by hand using personal stationery.

Example Letter #1


I just read in the paper that Jane passed away. I feel a real loss in her passing and want to extend my sympathy to you and your family. I will always remember Jane as an honest and cheerful woman who loved to work with young people. Our family is privileged to have known her. In the months to come, please know that our family loves and cares about you. We will be in touch.

Example Letter #2


I was deeply saddened to hear of John's passing. John was a fine man and a significant influence for good in others' lives. I will miss him a great deal. Please remember that I am here to help however I can. Don't hesitate to call if you need help with funeral or estate matters or if you simply need a listening ear.

Example Letter #3


Please accept my sincerest condolences at the death of your dear daughter. She and I spent our freshman year in college as roommates and have since shared a wonderful relationship by telephone and mail over the years. She was an important part of my life, and I feel her loss deeply.

Enclosed are a few choice letters that she wrote to me concerning her feelings and thoughts about you. I thought you might want to know how lovingly she spoke of you as not only her kind and loving parents, but also as her friends.

Example Letter #4


I was shocked and saddened to here of John's death. I will miss his warmth and humor. His visits to my home and office were always a treat. It is difficult to know what to do in times like these. I want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Please let me help you handle some of the many things that you certainly have to do. I am a phone call away. My time is yours.

Example Letter #5


Since I learned of your mother's passing, I find myself thinking of you and your family and how much we will all miss her. I am comforted because I am one of the lucky ones whose life was touched by this very special woman. I join you and the many others who will miss her, but I remain grateful still for having known her.


Reflect on the importance of the person who has died.

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Offer further condolences or support.

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